A Call To Men

The "A call to men" lecture by Tony Porter, he argues that men perceptions of women are that they see women as less valuable to them. Traditionally, men have always known as the breadwinner, strong one, dominant, leader, fearless and tough as oppose to women, the nurturer,  weak,  follower, and obedient to authority (males).  

 Porter gave some examples of his experience he had, one as a child and as an adult. Two of which stood out to me the most are that:

At the age of twelve a man asked Porter if would like have a sexual encounter with a young girl in his bedroom, he then replied yes! He wanted to prove that he was man enough and also to avoid ridicule. However, in the back of his head he knew it would be wrong to engage in sexual act with the girl and could be punishable by law; also he was still a virgin. So he stood behind the door in the bedroom for a while, and then walked out into the Living room with his pants down to indicate that he had done it, where there were a lot of men waiting in line for their turn. This is evident that some men have no respect for women and sees them as their use toys (sexual object).

Secondly, he speaks of a time when he had a conversation with a young boy, asking him how he would feel if his coach called him “A GIRL” in front of all the players.

The boy then replied: “It would destroy me!”    

From an early age, boys are helped to acquire a masculinity that allows them to assume and maintain that position. By the same demonstration, girls are taught to cultivate a submissive femininity. The resulting difference in the male and female character is then described as inherent and used to defend the existing power arrangement. Only those who accept it are normal, and only they can expect to succeed. The male social role is designed to reward masculine men, while the female social role offers its relative advantages only to feminine women. (The aggressive man will run the bigger business; the pretty, agreeable woman will find the richer husband.) In other words, masculinity and femininity are gender qualities which are developed in response to social discrimination. However, once they have been developed, they justify and cement it. The masculine and feminine gender roles mutually reinforce each other and thereby perpetuate the inequality on which they are based.

Certainly some of the things boys are being taught about girls are absolutely immoral and destructive to the female body. Until we as a society step up and reconstruct the thoughts we instill in our children, the perception men have against women will not stop and may mimic the behavior against Islamic and African women causing VIOLENT OPPRESSION.

                                         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKgaXGMPJDs 

An average of 6000 girls per day in Africa is circumcised as early as age three, having parts of their genitals removed such as the clitoris and the walls of their vagina. Females are seen as unclean if they aren't circumcised and as a result thrown out of their village in the street and are referred to as "Whores."